He is Jealous For Me {A Guest Post from Darby Duggar}

First off, the winner of the book giveaway is entry #137, Rhonda Rhoades! I’ve emailed you and am awaiting your mailing info!! Congrats!

This morning we have a guest post from Darby Duggar, founder of For The Love Ministries and author of the book “For the Love of Our Husbands.”

So, grab your tea or coffee and read below. You will totally relate, I am sure! 😉

HE IS JEALOUS FOR ME

I’ve been married over seven years and I am just now learning a lesson that has changed everything! While I wouldn’t describe myself as a “girly-girl” – I do enjoy being romanced, pursued, celebrated, and fought for (Okay, so maybe I am a girly-girl). My very patient husband has been wonderful at trying to fill my ever growing need for love. While I appreciate the gestures he makes, I still find myself, at times, feeling unloved and ordinary in our marriage.  People who know my husband find this hard to believe because Jason is a truly romantic and thoughtful guy. My husband finds this frustrating because he is trying his hardest and getting nowhere. I find it confusing because I have no idea what else he can do or why I have this insatiable hunger for romance.

Then, the other day, the Lord spoke clearly to me. My ever growing need for love is from Him, but He alone can fill it. Talk about a revelation! This simple fact that the Lord is pursuing me has not only moved me closer to Him in my faith, but it has been amazing for my marriage as well. I am no longer asking my husband to fulfill my heart’s every desire. Instead, I am turning to the Lord who is quick to shower me with His love and affection!  I even apologized to my husband recently for all the unnecessary pressure I was putting on him simply because I was seeking fulfilling love in him alone. Now, of course, I do have to say my husband loves me passionately, but I can’t expect the “better -than-a -chick-flick-every-minute” romance to come from my husband because no matter how much my husband loves me – he will never be able fill my need. Only God will.

Now don’t miss this! God not only fills my need (Philippians 4:19), but He pursues me restlessly (Matthew 18:12-14). He loves me unconditionally (Romans 8:35-39). He celebrates my very existence (Zephaniah 3:17). He is jealous for me (Deuteronomy 4:24). He will fight Satan for me (John 10:10). He is my lover (1 John 3:1).  What else could this girly-girl need?

The desire to be desired is instilled in the DNA of almost every human being. It ties us all together, and whether married or single, we all have One Person who will meet our every need. Finding Him, relating with Him, and soaking in His love fulfills the deepest hunger pain for love and acceptance.  Knowing the depth of His love for us requires the response of complete and total worship. We lay down all other idols (including husband and children) to have our hearts totally and completely captivated by the Name above every other name.

Can you relate? Are you trying to fill the void in your life with your husband when really it should be filled with God alone?