Five Questions To Help You Parent Your Kids
Making choices about our children are some of the toughest we as Christian women make.
We rack our brains, gather all kinds of material–in short, we do our homework to determine the best way to feed, raise, discipline and educate our kids.
We receive unsolicited advice from well meaning people who insert their opinions. We look around and compare ourselves to others and notice that others are “doing life differently” and we start to worry.
We worry that we might not do it just right, and that our mistakes will ruin our kids.
Incase you were wondering, no, I am not going to address these issues. Here’s why I rarely address child discipline or other issues like this here on my blog. (Child raising questions are the most common in my inbox. And if I know you, I will give you my opinion when asked, but when I don’t know you, I think wisdom would dictate that an older woman in your church family help you.)
But I do want to help lighten your burden today with this realization:
You aren’t going to do everything perfectly, and that is okay.
You are qualified to parent your child because God has given you the task and you are seeking His help. (it’s His child first, remember.)
Today, I want to give you a list of questions to ask yourself when trying to determine the right thing to do for your child. This list is helpful when trying to make decisions from the toddler years through the teens.
1. Is this forbidden or commanded in Scripture?
2. Is this decision the easy way out or will it build character?
3. Will this activity accurately communicate the character of God? Does it reflect His goodness, holiness and grace?
4. Even if “lawful”, will others stumble(sin) if we participate?
5. Is our attitude about this activity one that reflects dependence on God and a desire to do His will, or does it reflect an independent, self ruled spirit.
I hope this list will help you as you seek to raise your kids for Christ. Parenting is hard work and requires PRAYER and dependence on the Lord. There are no formulas, or one-size fits all methods.
If there were, we wouldn’t need the Lord, now, would we? 😉
3 thoughts on “Five Questions To Help You Parent Your Kids”
Thank you for that wonderful advice. I personally don’t have any children of my own, but I do have to help my parents with my younger, 16 year, some-what rebellious teenager and my older (sometimes forgetful and seemingly ungrateful) sister with her beautiful, intelligent 1.5 year daughter.
Would you happen to know of any blogs out there that I can get advice from whenever we have trouble? It may seem weird for me to be asking, but I feel like you may be able to help.
I’m a 23 year-old Latina, living in a 4 bedroom house with 9 people living in it (my family). I am a recently converted Christian and my family is Catholic. I just need someone I can talk to about… well everything; and I mean everything from family issues to faith-based dilemmas.
I feel so alone sometimes, it depresses me. I don’t like feeling like that.
After reading Psalms 101 ESV, I realized that I needed to find a mentor because I had no idea what I was doing. I needed to find someone I can talk to without feeling judged.
Great advice, Sarah. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, Jenni!