Some things that caught my attention this week:
An Amish gang? I was mildly amused by (okay, that’s a lie. I was cracking up) this article about four Amish women gone “wild”…and taking to cutting off beards. Yup. Hair cutting. It’s the new vandalism in the Amish community. Running around the field with horse mane shears. Come on now, really, Amish moms…can you please get your girls in hand so they will stop this tomfoolery? here
This article by Steve Haftler entitled Morality is Not the Gospel. I have been pondering this article for some time. I know I already posted it. But it is one of those things that the American church struggles with. Doing good and looking right is not the gospel, folks.
Not So Common, Common Sense.
I have an amusing book to recommend, How to Be A Lady. I first fell in love with this little volume while I was waiting for Peter in a Brooks Brothers Store. I was attracted to the rich navy leather binding, which I admit is a shallow reason to pick up a book, but as I started reading it, I couldn’t put it down.
Moms, teaching your daughter good manners is important, but living them out yourself is the real teacher. Not stuffy manners, just common courtesy.
“A lady doesn’t ask dating couples when they are getting married. Likewise, she doesn’t ask married couples when or if they are planning to have children.”
“A lady never compliments one person when she is in a group setting. She chooses a moment when the two of them are alone to offer her compliment.”
“A lady graciously accepts a compliment. She does not downgrade herself as if she did not deserve the admiration from the other person. She simply responds with, “Thank you.”
“A lady knows that false congeniality is as obvious as bad false eyelashes.”
The companion book, entitled “As a Lady Would Say” reads in a similar way:
“If a lady realizes, in retrospect, that she is guilty of an unintentionally rude or thoughtless remark, she attempts to set the matter straight, at her earliest opportunity.”
“If a lady is subjected to a rude remark or rude behavior, she does not offer rudeness in return.”
“A lady does not take part in major arguments over minor issues.”
“Faced with the option of using an unusual word or a word likely to be more familiar, she chooses the word that her hearers are more likely to understand.”
I used to think manners were common knowledge, but they are not. With a whole generation of women who grew up without a mother in the home, these things were clearly not passed along. And there is nothing that makes you shake your head in disbelief quite like a woman with poor manners.
We took a few days off this week to go down the Cape. We took the kids to Nausett Beach and enjoyed the completely empty landscape. Gorgeous.
I told the kids to grab their pails and shovels, towels and beach toys…and this is what Hope brought. An empty ice cream container, an empty tennis ball container and a snow fort maker. Why??? We have a shed full of pails and shovels and sand molding toys.
This week we celebrated my son Matt’s 15th birthday. He had some friends come over for an airsoft war. He wanted “false teeth” ice cubes for the drinks. Boys!– So different than girls! (I know. News flash! ha ha) I love him so! And I didn’t take ONE picture. sigh.
I also purchased some new throw pillows for my home with a gift card that I got for my birthday. I have a thing about throw pillows…and dishes…and throw blankets.
I am still reading Love to Eat, Hate to Eat by Elise Fitzpatrick. If you have ever struggled with weight loss or eating disorders, this book is for you. Her “DISCIPLINED” eating questions were excellent:
- Doubt: Do I doubt (for whatever reason) that I can eat this food without sinning?
- Idolatry: Does eating this particular food demonstrate a heart either of independence—“I can do whatever I want”—or a heart longing for pleasure—“I know that I don’t need this for my sustenance, but I love the feeling of the sweet coldness”?
- Stumble: If I eat this, will it cause a weaker Christian to stumble?
- Coveting: Am I eating this just because I saw someone else with it and I’m coveting it?
- Inroad: If I eat this, will it create an inroad for sin?
- Praise: Can I eat this food with thanks and gratitude? Is my heart overflowing with songs of praise to God?
- Life: Would eating this food harm my health in any way?
- Illustrate: Am I modeling good eating habits for others and encouraging them to be self-disciplined, or do I encourage others to self-indulge?
- No: Am I able to say no to this even if I know that I can eat it without sin?
- Emotions: Does the desire to eat this flow out of a heart of anger, fear, frustration, or depression?
- Distract: Will preparing or eating this food distract me from something better that God has for me to do?
- Enslaved: Does it bring me under any kind of bondage?
All of this, of course, can be summed up by one question: In my eating and drinking, am I glorifying God? (1 Corinthians 10:31). I am going through this book with a woman at my church and I have been so blessed by it.
I am also reading Legacy of Faith by Lydia Brownback. I called Rebekah at BJU and told her that this was required reading for her, especially the chapter on waiting for God in the area of dating and marriage.
And I have tried to start the Hunger Games two or three times now…but I can just never seem to get into fiction. I am going to try again…soon…ahem.
What are you reading these days? Have a great weekend!