The symptoms of a dissatisfied soul

My youngest daughter loves making bubbles. Not the blow-through-the-wand variety–those are too mainstream. She makes huge bubbles with her hands and some dish washing foam. She calls me over, “Quick! Look how big this one is!” It’s fun to see them expand, until POP– they are gone. Nothing left.



Vanity. Vapor. Really big for a moment and then gone. All form and no substance.

That’s what I was reminded of today in my reading of Ecclesiastes. And Hope’s bubbles remind me that our life cannot be lived for things that don’t last.

We all chase and blow bubbles that we believe will give us fulfillment. They’re oh so big and captivating at the moment.

The bubbles we chase vary: entertainment, experiences, prestige, acceptance, recognition, understanding, excess, power, success, control.

We carefully craft life to make it work according to our desires.

Some try to find fulfillment in ministry or social work.

Sometimes we work for the wrong reasons and to the detriment of those we love.

Some seek happiness by law keeping and others by law breaking.

Some seek elicit s*x, mind numbing drugs or anything else that will fill the void that is DISSATISFACTION.


It’s that aching sense that you’re missing out, that there’s got to be something more. It’s looking for wholeness in broken things that can only ever deliver brokenness and were never meant to hold any real place in our hearts.

As I look around at our culture, we’re seeking a personalized happiness and will do whatever it takes to get it. Nobody will stand in our way. We’re self sufficient people. My happiness trumps yours. Happiness and self are twin gods that we idolize, worship, and recklessly chase. 

In this pursuit, we chase the “latest and greatest.” We are enthralled by electronic gadgets. We spend much of our discretionary money on the here and now as if the Kingdom of Heaven did not exist.

We spend hours scouring social media. We’re like the Athenians in Acts 17 who were always seeking some new teaching or philosophy and  “would spend their time in nothing except telling or hearing something new.” Dissatisfied, distracted, and seeking the next new.

The Bible calls the pursuit of things that won’t last vanity.

And Ecclesiastes tells us why none of these fillers will satisfy:”He has put eternity into man’s heart…” (Eccl. 3:11)

Solomon was the wisest and richest King to ever live and he tried it all and wrote about it for our instruction in Ecclesiastes.

By his own words, he says that he tried pleasure, laughter, escapism, wine, women, work, making a name for himself by building the grandest of buildings and vineyards, entertainment, wealth, seeking power over people so much so that he had become “so great and surpassed all who were before me in Jerusalem.” He “kept his heart from no pleasure.” And yet, he comes to the conclusion that life that is lived outside of the knowledge and enjoyment of Christ is worthless.

If you remember English Grammar in elementary school, you remember prepositions. They tell you where something is in relationship to something else.

Solomon tells us that there is something above man, this God of the Bible who controls all things. And that this knowledge of God and eternity is within the man. He also reminds us that death is ahead of each of us and that dying is one of the realities of living.

We were not made for the here and now, we were created as eternal souls and nothing on this earth will bring us fulfillment until we are fulfilled in Christ. It is madness to live as though this life is all there is.

As Christians, we know this, but do we live it?

How much time did we spend last week in our Bibles getting to know the only One who can bring us satisfaction?

Or how many times did we live like self was of supreme importance last week?

Seeking satisfaction in self-stuff or in Christ. Those are the options.

Obviously, selfishness is the antithesis of Christianity. We know this and we know better.

And yet, we continue to blow bubble for ourselves, then cry when they pop. We get mad when they disappear or irritated when people bump into our bubbles and pop them. We pout when people don’t appreciate our bubbles like we think they should. We get offended when our bubbles are not recognized or applauded, or become discouraged or discontent when others have more bubbles than we do.

We need to see through our bubbles for clarity. And we need to pop them if they are idols. See, bubbles can be good things that become bad things when we love them too much.

God does give us good things, but they were never meant to replace Him in our hearts.

God does lavish us with gifts, but we can not live for them and forget the Giver.

When we see through the gifts to the Giver, on the outside our life may not look like it has changed, but we have changed inside.

We find fulfillment in whatever work we do, whether private or public, whether praised or criticized.  The work will no longer be about you. If the work is taken away or given to someone else, we won’t despair.

Our entertainment will no longer be about us, but about God’s will and ways even as we enjoy it. We’ll seek to build godly character in our entertainment and free time activities.

We’ll begin to live “mindful of God.”

We’ll work “as unto the Lord.”

We’ll serve “to the praise of His glorious grace.”

It’s amazing how perspective changes everything and informs and changes our motives.

It’s amazing how the bubbles that we once chased and demanded can pop into oblivion and we’re okay with that when our trust and hope are in the Lord. It’s exciting that the things that once allured us have no control over us any longer and we can just enjoy the creation BECAUSE of the Creator, reflecting back praise to Him who gives us all good gifts.

Video: DIY twiggy front door cross {from my beautiful sister! Woot!}

So many of you loved and asked for a tutorial for my sister’s front door cross, that I asked Amy to make a video for us and she agreed! Woot. I love her and her lovely front door decor. Enjoy!


Top 10 Favorite Recipes for Youth Group Activities

If you work in youth ministries, you’ve probably prepared a lot of food.

Of course, youth ministries is more than food.  It’s about encouraging hearts who are often trying to navigate the turbulent waters of adolescence, affirming the love of God to kids who often don’t feel good enough or accepted.

It’s about loving kids when they are unlovable and teaching truth at appropriate times, gauging when your listener if ready and able to receive it. And it’s about enjoying life together as joint heirs and members of the same body of Christ.

It’s about encouraging moms (and dads) to persevere in truth, and being a listener and friend when they struggle in this fallen flesh as we all do.

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But, no doubt, food for teens is huge. I’ve had several friends ask me to share some of my go-to recipes for feeding our youth group, so here you go.

1. Pizza. 

My dough recipe: (makes one crust)

1 cup warm water

1 pkg. yeast

1 T. sugar

Dissolve these three together. Allow to sit until surface looks “bubbly” so you know the yeast activated.

Stir in 3 cups flour, 2 T olive oil, 1 T. salt. Knead until smooth. Place in greased bowl to rise, about an hour.

Spread into pizza pan that has been heavily greased with Crisco. Add toppings: sauce, cheese, garlic powder, oregano.

Pizza sauce (this is enough for two pizzas)

I make my own pizza sauce by draining the water out of a can of crushed tomatoes. Then I saute 2 cloves or garlic in olive oil, add the tomatoes, 2 bay leaves, and 1 T sugar. Cook until thick and dark, about 10 minutes. I throw in some chopped parsley at the last minute and add some black pepper if I feel like it.

I bake at 450 degrees for 12-15 minutes or until cheese is slightly bubbly and browning.

2. Cranberry Meatballs

In a crock pot, mix 2 bags frozen Swedish meatballs, 2 cans Ocean Spray whole berry cranberry sauce, 2 jars Heinz chili sauce (NOT cocktail sauce which looks similar.)

Cook several hours on high in crock pot, stirring to cover the meatballs occasionally.

3. Cranberry Kielbasa

Slice 2 pkg Hillshire Farms Polska Kielbasa into 1/2 inch slices. Fry in a large frying pan until mostly cooked. Add a can of Ocean Spray cranberry sauce and 2 T. brown sugar.

Easy and delish.


4. Taco Salad with Doritos 

1 1/2 lb. ground beef
1 sm. onion, diced
1 pkg. taco seasoning mix
1 lg. bottle Catalina salad dressing (16 oz.)
8 oz. grated cheddar cheese
1 med. size bag Doritos, crushed
3 med. tomatoes
Large bag of iceberg lettuce salad
Brown ground beef and drain. Add taco seasoning mix according to package directions. After cooking, drain excess liquid.
In a large bowl combine meat, chopped onion, cheese, tomatoes and lettuce. Add crushed corn chips. Toss to coat together with Catalina salad dressing. 
5. White Chocolate Covered Chex Mix :: this recipe is just like mine but I don’t use Cheerios. I double the Chex Mix. And I never measure, so… :)
6. Ice Cream Pie. Easy. Chocolate cookie graham cracker crusts, filled with softened ice cream. Freeze. You can drizzle with with hot fudge and garnish with whipped cream and crushed candy before serving.
7. Chocolate Chip cookies.  This is the recipe I use.
8. Buffalo Chicken Dip. An all time favorite with our teens. I don’t use canned chicken. I just boil a few chicken breasts and shred them myself.
9. Soda floats. Root beer, coke,  or orange soda, over ice and with a scoop of vanilla ice cream. Yum. 
10. Just like Sonic Cherry Limeade. We make these by using a bottle of Sprite, 1/4 c grenadine syrup, the juice of 4 freshly squeezed limes, and small jar of maraschino cherries, juice and all.




Why the Internet Seems Silent about Raising Christian Teens

There have been quite a few articles floating around about the lack of articles and support for middle aged moms who are raising teens. Information for young moms is abundant, but for the mom raising Christian teens? *crickets*crickets*



The vacuum is real.

I think I know why.

Parents of teens realize they don’t know it all. Parenting check lists are out the window. Parents of teens have been there, done that. We listen with patient tolerance as younger moms offer unwarranted “expertise.”

We’re holding on to grace and God’s promises with both hands.

We know what it means to have faith and to watch in anticipation as you take off the training wheels and let your kids ride away for themselves. It’s wobbly and hopeful and wonderful and frightening all at the same time.

Parents of teens know how to pray hard. We pray hard because we know we’ve made mistakes and haven’t been the perfect parent. We pray hard because we know how rough the world is and what our kids are up against. We know how sin messes up lives and how Satan would like to sift our kids like wheat.

By the time you have a teen you’ve grown up yourself. You wish you hadn’t felt so free to write off the mom that struggled here, or so quick to comment about the issues we saw over there. In short, humility begins to be a virtue in your own life and judgement takes a back seat.

By the time you have teens, the sanctification process is in full swing and you see yourself in your teen’s struggles.

You’re less apt to comment on the drama, apathy, tears, hormones, sin, and failures of your almost adult teen who is caught in the flux and flow of trying to get wisdom.

Our teens are not born wise. They are in and out of varying states (depending on the child, day, time of month, etc….) of what the Proverbs categorizes as wise, simple, foolish, and full blown scorners.

This should not be a shock to you because this is your story, too. Every day you wake up a sinner and go to bed a sinner. Hopefully you are fighting the spiritual battle and leaning in to God’s word every day a little more. Reliance and submissiveness are becoming the norms. Like mountain climbing, we go before them, and reach down with a helping hand to pull them up when needed. We point out the glorious scenery, give them support, tell them where the rocks are loose and where the ledges are. We encourage them to keep climbing.

This past week, my husband and I attended a conference where the topic was on discipleship. Discipleship was defined as “leveraging all that you are and have to help someone else become more like Christ.” Discipleship does life “as you go” and models how to live.

The truth is that our teens have been watching our “model” of life for years. They’ve picked up what we really believe by watching us.

Our kids watch us to learn how to live. Our teens already know how we live.

Hopefully, you’ve modeled a life of integrity. Hopefully you are the same person at home as you are in church. Hopefully you build others up in front of their faces and behind their backs as well. Hopefully you are magnifying Christ in the little choices, the secret choices. Hopefully our character is like Daniel who, when nobody else was watching, would not defile himself with the king’s meat. Daniel’s private choices, prepared him for the BIG stuff later on. Choosing death over false worship and facing the lion’s den was not a hard choice because he had made right choices all along.

But because we are not perfect, our kids need to see repentance modeled. They need to see repentance from a parent before they know how to repent themselves. Saving face with your teens or others by smoothing things over, blame shifting, quasi-telling someone you are “sorry they were hurt”, is not modeling Biblical repentance. Repentance is a turning away, an agreeing with God about your sin which you now see as wicked.

Raising teens means dealing with their sin with humility and grace, restoring ‘in the spirit of meekness, watching yourself, lest you be tempted.” There are no shortcuts and dealing with sin is a life long process. If you had a quick fix for sin, you would have ceased from being a sinner yourself.

Don’t condemn their brand of sin while excusing your own.

I once overheard a mom giving her daughter an angry verbal tongue lashing over her “sin.” In public. In front of her friends. She talked to this girl worse than she would talk to a dog. She was out of control but felt righteous in her judgement. This mom did more damage than good. She used her tongue inappropriately to point out the “sin” in her kid. This is blindness and madness.

Accusations close the heart. Angry words build walls. “The kindness of the Lord leads to repentance.” Romans 2:4

Our teens may be tempted to sin in ways that don’t tempt us. Younger people seem to be more tempted in the areas of immoral desires, pride, cravings for wealth or power, jealousy, envy, apathy, laziness, or an argumentative spirit.

Maybe our pet sins are different, but they are still an affront to the face of a good and holy God. The most important lesson we can teach a child is that God is good and wants us to repent when we mess up.

As Grace-receivers ourselves, we point to the Grace-Giver.

Dealing with the struggles of an adult child can really be like a mirror, reminding us of the idolatrous struggles we recognize in our own life every day.

Have you ever failed to love the Lord with all your heart? This is at the root of all our struggles. When we get this right, our vision changes, our heart aligns to what God wants and we go to Him for “rest.” We repent and turn back.

Christians who have received grace extend grace. Christians who have received forgiveness extend forgiveness.

The alternative to asking forgiveness and finding grace is to cover up our sin. We ignore it, excuse it, or justify it. This leads us away from the cross, deeper into isolation, away from help, and vulnerable to spiritual attack. The mom (or teen) who covers up their sin will not prosper.

When your teen is sinful, bring them to the foot of the cross where they find forgiveness.

If we really believe that Jesus is the answer and that grace is for sinners, we won’t pretend that we don’t need help with our sin or grace and forgiveness. And we won’t isolate our kids when they come to us for help.

I told you it gets messy, and that is the very reason I believe that few people write about raising teens– which is a shame. The grace and hope that is available for sinful men and women is available for teens as well.

And as a mom of four teens, I’m thankful for grace and strength and for the Word of God that points us all to the cross and to the goodness of our God.

Your turn: What do you think? Do you agree? Why do you think the internet is quiet when it comes to raising teens?


DIY Spring Bird’s Nest Tutorial

Even though we still have two feet of snow on the ground, I’m working on decorating my house for spring. Today my goal was to finish decorating my mantle.

I made this bird’s nest for the mantle and thought I’d share how I made it. It’s kind of a no-brainer, but if you are not crafty, maybe this will help you to try your own. I just LOVE bird’s nests in general, so this is one of the sweetest crafts in my opinion.

DIY bird's nest


You need two grapevine wreaths, one bigger and one smaller. The smaller one should fit inside the larger one. I found these at the Dollar Tree.

Using the larger grapevine wreath as the top of the nest and the smaller one as the bottom, wire the two wreaths together. Then form a bottom of the nest by weaving the wire like a basket. It’s okay if it’s a mess. It will all be covered. You want the basic shape of a nest or a bowl. Wire it to death if you have to to get the rounded shape.

Next, I used a glue gun to add moss to the outside. I found the moss ribbon at Jo-Ann’s Fabric for $3.99. I pulled the moss so that it looked loose and sparse and not “ribbonny.” I wanted it to look natural.

After I line the outside with green moss, I added some to the inside of the nest. I then stuffed the bottom with a good sized handful of Spanish Moss, also from the Dollar Tree.
After the basic nest is done, you can pretty it up by hot gluing small flowers, berries, or leaves around the perimeter.

Finished DIY Grapevine Birds Nest

Finished DIY Grapevine Birds Nest

I filled mine with five little eggs (for my 5 kids). The eggs were also at Jo-Ann’s. Other years, I’ve used the nest as a candy dish, placing a shallow dish inside and filling it with Cadbury Mini Eggs, which look adorable. I’ve also filled them with yellow Peeps for Easter.
Here’s the finished mantle. I used things I had around the house: an old Ball Jar filled with moss, one of my favorite antiques, a signed Wallace Nutting print entitled “The Coming Out of Rose”, some galvanized buckets filled with greens and a few natural elements from some potpourri I had around the house. I hope this inspires you to try your own nest. Send me pics if you make one!


Interview with Christine Hoover and a From Good to Grace Giveaway

Really excited to share this interview with Christine Hoover with you today and offer a giveaway of her new book, From Good to Grace for you and a friend!  If you aren’t familiar with her book, I semi-reviewed it here after I disagreed with the Gospel Coalition’s review which basically said that this dependence on grace and the Holy Spirit was not enough to lead to holiness and change. Many of you wrote that this was your faulty understanding as well, years ago, and that God had brought you through trials to bring you to the end of yourself and show you that dependence on the law for salvation or sanctification was futile. The law was meant to be a schoolmaster, holding our hand, leading us to the Savior.

I had a few questions for Christine after reading her book and wanted to share them with you.

Sarah: What causes us to get the “gospel” so wrong?  Especially those of us who have been brought up in solid gospel preaching churches?

Christine: The gospel is not innate to us. It’s an announcement of good news that we must hear and proclaim to ourselves over and over again. We must let it consistently sink down deeper into every crevice of life. We get it wrong so often because what I term the goodness gospel–spiritual growth through self-effort–is innate. We tend to innately believe that external behaviors can change internal realities, so self-effort has an appearance of wisdom to us. We must, as Paul says in Galatians 5:1, “stand firm in the liberty for which Christ has set us free”.

So there’s this fight to live in the grace Christ has won for us, but I think in our churches we often focus on what the gospel says about salvation, but we aren’t always talking about how the gospel applies to our sanctification. How do we grow? How does the Holy Spirit work in our daily lives? What does it mean to walk by faith? Without understanding these concepts, we naturally revert back to the goodness gospel.

Sarah: On a practical level, what does preaching the “grace gospel” look like on a daily basis? You talked in the book about what you dubbed “Autism Days” and how those emotionally hard days were when you needed to remember God’s love. Can you talk us through your thought process. What verses do you cling to? How do you prepare yourself for the highs and lows of emotion that we women experience throughout life?

Christine: My emotionally difficult days usually circle around discouragement regarding my children, self-doubt regarding writing, and struggles with being a pastor’s wife. My thoughts tell me that I’m not good enough or that I’m not doing enough. When I’m thinking along those lines, I typically go back to two anchors.

One is, “What has God asked of me in this?” Almost 100% of the time, I am condemning myself rather than experiencing the conviction of the Holy Spirit. God has asked me to be faithful in my roles, but I am putting additional standards on myself, such as having perfectly behaved children and people at church who are perpetually pleased with me. I know God’s conviction when it is biblical, specific, and hopeful, not condemning. There is no condemnation ever for those who are in Christ (Romans 8:1).

The second anchor is adding “But God” to my thoughts. Am I good enough? No, but God has made me righteous in His eyes through Christ. Am I going to disappoint people? Yes, but God has given me His unchangeable approval in Christ.

I’m not saying that my emotions immediately change, but going to these anchors leads me to ask the Lord for help in believing what is true and help in being faithful to Him in my roles.

Sarah: Parenting is one place where I think we can unknowingly train our kids to a behavioral gospel. We praise good behavior and scold negative behavior. We use phrases like “Good girl” and get excited when our kids act and behave in appropriate ways that make us look like the “good mom.” Do you think we are ingraining the goodness gospel in our kids?

Christine: This is a good and important question. In parenting my kids according to the gospel of grace, it helps me to think about the role of the Law. According to Galatians 3:19-25, the Law teaches us that we need something beyond ourselves and our own abilities and behaviors in order to be righteous. In other words, I look at the law and I see my inability to be good and it leads me to Christ.

This is so applicable to parenting. I want to teach my children what God says is right and wrong and to obey Him (the Law), but I can’t stop there. I have to help them understand that they are unable in and of themselves to fully obey and “be good”. This leads to the gospel: Jesus was perfect on their behalf and they are given the opportunity to accept it by faith.

After salvation, I want to teach them that faithfulness to God is the most important pursuit. I am leading them to Jesus and teaching them to walk with Him, not just to obey me. I want them to go to Him in Scripture, know Him through Scripture, ask Him for help and leadership, and learn to obey His voice. Of course, I am going to be a primary voice in their life, but the question is who is leading me as I lead my children? Myself and my own desires, understanding, and effort? Or am I trusting that God will speak to my children and help them grow? I must pray toward that end, otherwise I am tempted to be their Law and Holy Spirit.

Sarah: How has writing this book impacted the way you parent? How are you intentionally training your kids to understand the love and grace of God?

Christine: What God has taught me about grace has greatly impacted my parenting. The most helpful thing I’ve learned about grace is that I am not an orphan (John 14:18). I don’t have to take care of myself. I have a Father who loves me, cares for me, and nurtures me. He delights in me and sings over me. Knowing that lights me up with joy, but it also compels me to lay down my life for the One who has sacrificed so much for me.


This has everything to do with parenting. I want my kids to see me delight in God and enjoy Him and serve Him, because kids really do love what their parents love. I want them to see me so confident in God’s love for me and that He loves them the same way. Because God’s love toward them will compel them to faithful obedience (2 Cor. 5:14). I know that’s not super practical, but the old adage is true: you can’t give away what you don’t have.

Thanks, so much, Christine, for joining us here today and sharing what the Lord is teaching you.

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Make sure you tag @joyfilleddays and make your post public so I can count your entry on the social media outlet of your choice. You can enter once on each social media platform for a total of 3 entries.

Contest ends midnight, Friday, 3/13/2015, EST.  Physical book mailings for the US only. Outside the US, you’ll win a Kindle version of the book. Giveaway courtesy of Baker Books and 

Book Review: From Good to Grace

I was going to wait until next week to review From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel because I have a giveaway and a special interview with Christine to share with you.10943725_1021483634548490_2479008169173859976_n


But after I highly recommended the book last week, a reader brought The Gospel Coalition’s review of it to my attention, and wondered at the question made by the reviewer, “Doesn’t grace lead to goodness?” The question asserts that the book failed to point its reader to a pursuit of good works. So, I decided to share my thoughts today and vanquish any fears that this book is a call to heavy handed grace which leads to licentiousness and away from true goodness.

So, let’s look at TGC’s question.

“Doesn’t Grace Lead to Goodness? This was the one question that stuck with me after reading From Good to Grace. When believers are forgiven and liberated from their bondage to sin and death, aren’t we supposed to become slaves to righteousness… It seemed to me that much of the book equated the pursuit of goodness with legalism…Peter tells us we’re called to be holy as God is holy. Paul exhorts us to imitate God (who is the definition of goodness) as beloved children. I’m assuming this means God intends us to strive for goodness in some regard. Unfortunately, Hoover does little to address the ways in which these two realities—grace and the pursuit of holiness—interact. She isn’t the first to step foot into this gray zone. ”

I’m not sure how she missed one of the central messages that walking in the Spirit is the way to goodness (a little ironic given the topic of the book.)

In essence, she’s asking, “Don’t we need to strive for holiness?” And the answer is beautifully answered, a resounding “YES” we do, absolutely,  but in the strength of the Holy Spirit. (excerpts below) You see, why we do what we do is the point of the book. We can do all the right things for the wrong reasons.

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In this book, Christine contrasts the beliefs of a woman who believes the goodness gospel and how those core beliefs play out in her daily life vs. the freedom and reality of the true gospel  which is freedom to good works via the Spirit led life.

Many Christian women are joyless and in bondage to another gospel, and although this is a partial list, here are some of the reasons we live this way:

  • it’s easier to walk in the flesh, than in the Spirit, so having begun in the Spirit, they’re now being perfected in the “flesh” (Gal. 3:3)
  • when we walk in the flesh, we feel more in control. Walking in the Spirit is foreign to many Christians, unfortunately, and it shows in our lack of fruit (love, joy, peace)
  • we care more about self-image and how we are perceived by others
  • we fail to understand the love and goodness of God

The goodness gospel preaches that we must do more, be more, attain more, and never drop any of the roles we juggle. It’s all about our performance. On the days when we are performing well by our own standards, and everyone is applauding us, we feel validated and good. On the days when we fail, and people criticize us, we feel condemnation. This is not the good news. The good news is that we are not enough, and we don’t have to be enough, because Jesus is enough on our behalf.

For those worried that From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospelis a call to licentiousness, or as TGC article infers, a call to abandon good works, I’ll leave you with a few quotes from the book and let Christine speak for herself:

“As we receive his love, our responses will include daily dying
so that we might awaken to righteousness. We will make no provision for the
flesh because we desire to live according to the Spirit. That’s the heart’s
desire of the redeemed.” Pg. 85

“The Spirit enables us to pursue righteousness and do all that
God asks of His followers. “I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not
fulfill the lust of the flesh….” Pg 94

“We can trust that it is the Holy Spirit who is leading us when
he aligns our hearts with Scripture and convicts us of truth. This conviction ….leads
to godly sorrow and repentance. “ pg. 101

“As he convinces us of both our need and our reception of
imputed righteousness, we recognize a growing love and desire for obedience in
our lives. He leads us away from the lusts of the flesh.” Pg 101

“ but we have another responsibility, and that is to obey when
he leads. It’s not enough to receive the Holy Spirit’s conviction, direction,
counsel, and leadership; we must then fall in step with him by following and obeying.” Pg. 106

Christine’s heart is to want to do right so badly and be good in all her roles, that it eventually brought her into bondage. If you can relate with this struggle, you’ll be blessed by her gracious, clear, gospel solid writing.

A six word question that has saved me many times.

At the end of our lives, we want to say that we lived our life well. I don’t want to look back with regret, or realize that I majored on minors, spending my precious energy on things that didn’t matter or things I couldn’t change.


The fact is, we only have one life and we only get to live it once. It’s non-refundable. Once it’s gone, you can’t get it back.

This means that our decisions are important. I know you agree on the big things of life, like where to move, what job to pursue, etc…but it’s even more important in the little things of life.

“The way we live our hours is the way we live our days. And the way we live our days is the way we live our lives.

I have a question I ask myself whenever I am at a crossroad. Six little words that have helped me choose wisely: What is most important right now?


When the house is a mess and the kids are in creative mode in and drill Sargent mom starts to surface demanding that they clean up in short order, and frustration is mounting: What is most important right now?


When you’ve got a million things to do, and nobody else seems to have two arms or two legs that day: What is most important right now?


When you’re frustrated by people who don’t seem to have a clue about the basics of common courtesy: What is most important right now?


When you’re dealing with that woman who just can’t seem to control her tongue, and you’re tempted to give her a piece of your mind and put her in her place once and for all: What is most important right now?


When you’re overwhelmed with life, and you are asked to cram more into your schedule: What is most important right now.


When ministry opportunities are abundant and more requests are coming your way: What is most important right now?


Asking the simple question takes you out of the arena of the “immediate”–I’ve got to say something, or do something—and gives you a chance to make a wise decision.

Many times, prayer, time, and checking with your spouse adds clarity, too, and keeps you from prioritizing your life so you won’t be sorry.

The answers to “What is most important right now” may vary: God’s glory, devotional life, time for kids to be creative, teaching our kids to be kind with our words, practicing imperfect hospitality, stewarding well our spiritual gifts, being there for a friend, the laundry (!!!), being with a loved one in their need, encouraging a friend, getting this meal on the table.

It’s simple, admittedly. But it has helped me more times than I can recall.

Do you talk to yourself? What questions do you ask?



A watercolor printable for you, and a new, must-read book

So teach us

My site has been quiet this past week, partly due to technical reasons which I ended up ignoring, because honestly, life is busy in a good way.

In case I haven’t mentioned it, we’ve got snow here, people. Six feet. And with it—rain in my kitchen. Insurance adjusters are coming our way soon and we’re thinking that we’ll need to replace ceilings in two rooms.



The storm has afforded me extra time to read, paint, and have friends over.


I told you I’d post the watercolor I designed on my way home from A.I. DuPont after Addy’s first surgery. I’m posting it here so you can print it out and enjoy it. Please consider it a thank you for praying for my niece.

I’ve entitled it “Teach us to number our days.” It’s a picture of a primitive style cabinet in my kitchen.

This is the cabinet this past Christmas.

This is the cabinet this past Christmas.

I filled it with all of the things of a woman’s life: quilts to represent security, rest, and hospitality; dishes to represent the important task of feeding bodies and carrying on family traditions; books for the imparting of wisdom. There are other “life”” things tucked in the cabinet, including baby shoes, flowers, tea cups, photos, needle and thread, etc. Yellow beeswax tapers hang on the side to represent light. Now we see darkly, as by candle light, but some days we’ll behold our Savior and see Him as he is. Amazing thought.


These things are all crude and necessary, but imagine heaven some day. No need of blankets for warmth or security, because we’ll be in the presence of the holy, triune God.

No need of books. We’ll be with the Word itself.

Even our best china dishes will pale in comparison to the table the Lord sets before us.

Until then, we’ll rejoice that we are strangers and pilgrims here, and use our time to worship the Lord through our work.

When you see all of life as worship, the job you’ve been given to do no longer matters. Faithfulness matters. Sometimes we get this wrong. We pour our energy into “big” things to the neglect of the everyday things. This is a serious mistake. Our lives are lived in the mundane moments, and most of our opportunities to serve come in micro-events, not mountaintop moments.

We can serve pancakes and tea to our family behind closed doors and God sees it as service to Him. Don’t make your kids fend for themselves, but then kill yourself for a church ministry. That’s backwards, and honestly, not uncommon. We can embrace washing sheets and dishes with as much gratitude as standing on a stage speaking to hundreds for the cause of Christ. If our heart is worshiping God, we’ll happily serve whether on the stage or in the sick room cleaning up after children.

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One book that I want to make sure you know about that releases today on Kindle is From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel.

This book is not a loosey-goosey feel good book. It’s not a call to let your hair down and live as you want.

It’s the secret to a powerful Christian walk. It’s letting go of the try hard life and forgetting self all together, so that you can depend on the Holy Spirit to get a hold of you and change you.

For those of you who live with self-condemnation which keeps you from really loving and serving others, this book is for you.

For those who feel like no one appreciates all that they do, this one if for you.

For those who feel like a failure as a Christian, you are so close…because you are… and that’s exactly where you need to be to grasp the grace that God provides for you.

For those of you who are doing good things for all the wrong reasons…trying to get God to like you or trying to get others to think you are a good person, this book is for you.

If you’ve spent your entire Christian walk worrying about what other people think of you, pick up  From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel.

This is one of my favorite reads of 2015 so far. (Disclosure: I received it free from the publisher. I’m purchasing it for several friends–it was that good, and it’s out today in Kindle format. Paperback is available March 3.)

Have a great week, ladies!

What My Daughters Need to Know This Valentines Day

Ask your daughter this question: “Who are you? Describe you.”

I work with teen girls and I’ve asked this very question. They nervously and giggly begin telling me what they excel at and enjoy.

I’m so and so’s girl friend. I play the piano. I draw and paint. I write stories. I am a dreamer, runner, friend, singer, student, soccer player, Spanish speaker, etc.  

They describe attainments and roles.

What answers pop into your mind when you think about who you are? I find that we self-define in similar ways: I am a wife, mother, teacher, grandmother, speaker, artist, author, secretary, ministry wife. I homeschool, knit, grow organic food, vaccinate, don’t vaccinate, etc.

Although we play many roles in life, but this is not who we are. We are first and foremost a PERSON in a personal relationship with Christ.

Why does knowing this matter?

Because it’s a fundamental. Knowing who I am in Christ keeps me grounded and secure in His love and Word no matter what happens to me in life.

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Ephesians is one of my favorite go-to Scriptures for spiritual identity. It tells us that in Christ we are

  • blessed (1:3)
  • chosen (1:3)
  • adopted into God’s family as a son/heir (1:5)
  • redeemed by the precious blood of Christ (1:7)
  • forgiven of all my sin (1:7)
  • lavishly given God’s grace (1:8)
  • sealed and secure through the Holy Spirit (1:13, 14)

I am who God says I am in scripture. I am not the sum total of my roles.

  • My husband is a blessing, but if he leaves, I am not diminished or loved any less by God.
  • When my children leave home my job may change, but my purpose in life is the same: to live to the praise and glory of God no matter what I am doing.
  • If we lose our house, or friends, or ministry, we will not be shaken because our standing in Christ can never be taken away.

I fear that we confuse roles for true identity and look for significance in what we do and how others relate to us in our roles.

Girls, you are a person first and your God wants a personal relationship with you.

You may never have a husband. Or maybe you will and he will walk away. At your core, you are still a person living in the presence of God. He wants a personal relationship with you first, before all of your other relationships. He wants your satisfaction to come from Him alone, not in your roles, your abilities, or your achievements. Keeping Christ central is essential to fulfilling your other roles in a godly manner.

We live in a world that is no friend to my daughters. It screams and promotes worldliness which is contrary to Scripture. The world peddles its goods to my girls, promising them satisfaction in everything and anything apart from God.

You have to flaunt it to be noticed. You’ll never be anything if you don’t look like this. Follow your heart, forget the rest. To be popular, you need to _____, and the more popular you are the better. “Likes” matter. You need to be extraordinary. The pretty girls are the thin ones. You need Botox. You need this brand to be popular. You need, you need, you need.

At its root, of course, the world promotes worldliness. It’s usually a self-centered, grasping, covetousness message meant to make you unhappy with what you don’t have and ready to do what it takes to get it. Covetousness is the very essence of worldliness. (James 4:4)

James 4 tells us that we crave, and strive, and war because our worldly passions are driving us to seek satisfaction in all the wrong places. “You desire and do not have, so you…war.” (James 4:4)

War is one response. When we sin to get what we want, we know we are acting on covetous desires. What lengths will you go to get what you believe will satisfy you?

James also tells us that our satisfaction is elusive. “You covet and cannot obtain so you fight and quarrel.” (4:2)

And mercifully, God is not willing to give you your covetous desires. “You ask and do not receive,  because you ask wrongly to spend it on your passions.” James 4:3 (envy, covetous motives.)

Why? Because God is jealous for your heart and wants to dwell in it exclusively. “Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us.” James 4:5,

It all comes back to you and God. God wants your wholehearted devotion. He doesn’t want you to do great things for Him or be great things for Him. He wants you to love Him.

That’s what I want my girls to know this Valentine’s Day, because all of life and love starts there. If Jesus Christ doesn’t satisfy you, nothing ever will. When you are satisfied in Christ, your circumstances almost don’t matter.