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Do You Like Your Husband?

Walking through Boston with Peter.

“Train the young women to…love their husband.” Titus 2:4

Titus 2 gives us a checklist of seven good things that older women in the church are to pass along to the younger women in the church.  The first in this list of things to learn is to “love their husbands.”

Most of us would say we love our husbands. We DID marry them, after all.

But can you say that you actually LIKE your husband? Do you consider your husband your best friend? Do you actually like spending time with him?

In this verse, the greek word  translated “love their husbands” is philandros which means a “loving friend and companion.”  It is a friendship love.

Friendship love is something that we have to nurture. It is so easy to slip into “service” love with our husband instead of practicing friendship love. We wash, cook, clean… and cook some more. Although these are good things, they don’t substitute for a friendship with your man.

What does Friendship Love look like in daily life? Here are a few suggestions:

  • Checking in with him during the day just to say “hi.”
  • Kissing him when he comes home just because your glad to see him.
  • Calling him to tell him exciting news before you call your girl friends.
  • Scheduling time to be alone with him doing things you both enjoy: shopping, sports, dinner dates, etc…

As women, and especially women with children at home, it’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life, and never really enjoy our guy as a companion and friend. (Similarly, I think we tend to have the same tendency in our relationship with God. We think service equates to love. Serving God=Loving God.)

So, what are some ways you can be friend to your husband? Are their other relationships that need to be put on hold until your friendship with your husband is real and vibrant?

When you live out the priorities of Titus 2, the Bible says that your good example helps to promote the good news of Jesus Christ and ensures that the gospel is not maligned and slandered.